Balance-when you get it have you lost it?

After spending a very loungy summer eating mostly everything I wanted, skipping the gym and being lazy, I thought I would title this entry what is balance really? So I googled the definition.. balance=”keep or put (something) in a steady position so that it does not fall”. Hmmm being a working mother who has a mind that almost always tells her she is not doing enough already to keep things a float and in a “steady position” is a constant balance.  Sometimes I am balanced at everything for months then bam fall off all discipline for weeks.

Last summer I was in the best shape of my life and this summer I was drinking too many iced coffees and desserts while feeling my butt grow and not really being motivated to hit the gym every week.  So that was the bad. What was the good of the summer?  Being in the moment, letting the kids stay in pj’s, letting the house be messy and trying hard not to freak out about it.  Eating very inconsistent.. meaning sometimes big lunches and light dinners or yogurt dinners.  The bottom line was ease up and don’t be so structured.  It was uncomfortable for me at times as I am a type A everything has to be pretty predictable for me.  But what I noticed is I am happier when I am not killing myself to make that perfect meal every night.  I do love cooking but sometimes we need a week of frozen pizzas and cereal.

Last night I saw Bad Moms and it re-enforced that we are all doing too much and trying too hard.  The best moms at times sit in their car and cry sometimes feeling overwhelmed.  That person you can’t stand may turn out to be someone you really like if you put yourself in her shoes for a minute and stopped comparing.  Sometimes all we need is a nod and someone to say “I’ve been there, can I help?”