For most of my life I thought I had to be strong. Hold feelings in. Don’t let them see you sweat. Act as if even when inside you were feeling less than ok. Over the years I have learned as the layers are removed more beauty comes when we show people our vulnerability. Human beings have this innate ability to connect with other humans and share life’s ups and downs. We need a super network. We need a tribe. We need people to show up for us and our kids. We need to share the beautiful moments as well as the flu’s, deaths, job losses, pet illnesses, or just crappy days with others. That’s what helps us know we are not alone.
This week I came down with a tickle in my throat I thought oh no this can’t be I had bronchitis 2 weeks ago. Well it rapidly turned into walking pneumonia. 2 days and about 5 million cough attacks later and there is the part of me that thinks “Why is so and so never sick.” Who cares they have different stressors and different DNA and you know what with sickness brings change. So as I am googling a very good probiotic. A friend texts to check on me and another sends a pic because I couldn’t make the awards show although in my crazy brain I was thinking maybe I should go. The kids will survive if I am not there. What about all the parents who have no choice and cannot make any awards it helps the kids realize we are afterall humans, and self-care comes first. Especially if you are coughing up a lung!
So let the tears flow when you feel lonely. Call a friend and tell them you aren’t quite yourself. Ask for help. Or just curl up and watch your favorite mini-series. This is something I rarely do but sickness allows me this ability to slow down and remember its ok to just lay around in your pj’s!